Archive for April, 2010

Mission Reciprocity – Aborted

Here’s why….

“Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” – Luke 6:28

I got the message 😉 Thanks God!


Mission Reciprocity – Check-in

So…this is a bit harder than I thought it was going to be.  Turning against my innate nature is extremely difficult.  I’m not going to lie, when I first thought about doing this mission, I had some specific people in mind (wishing I could name names, LOL).  Folks that I (or my husband) had extended friendship to and they seemed to go out of their way to disappoint and not extend the same measure back. 

But I’ve noticed ever since I started my mission of treating them like they treat me, I’m having the DARNEDEST time doing it! Its like I cannot stop being helpful, nice, friendly. I will literally have to bite my tounge, in order to treat them the same way they treat me!  I’ve sorta only succeeded with one person in my life, but honestly I’m not sure if I’ve been doing it long enough for there to be a noticable difference (to them anyways).

Grrr @ myself for wanted to see the best in people.  This mission is a LOT harder than I initially thought it would be.  I think I’m not angry enough to pull it off.  Perhaps when someone pisses me off again, it will be easier, LOL.

But alas…I’m not a quitter, I will survive!!! Maybe the lesson to learn in this is not how others will percieve getting treated the way they deserve to be treated, but its actually don’t stoop down to their level.  Its too hard and it’s just not natural in the end???

Hmm…I will forge ahead for now – time will tell!

I AM my hair…

Chrisette says in this interview what I’ve been saying ever since India Arie came out with the song, “I am not my hair”

Chrisette: “But the truth of the matter is, everyone keep saying to me “I am not my hair”. I AM my hair. Whether I wear long tresses on my head or short naps, that’s me. And when you say something crazy about it or disrespect it, you hurt my feelings. Artists like to make believe that nothing effects them and that they love haters and haters make them stronger. That’s a load of bullcrap. I think that Haters are mean and that’s all that’s to it. So…I am my hair.”



I have decided for the next 365 I will engaged in a little something I’d like to call – MISSION RECIPROCITY.

In case you’re confused on what the meaning of the word is, here it goes:

  • A reciprocal condition or relationship.
  • A mutual or cooperative interchange of favors or privileges, especially the exchange of rights or privileges of trade between nations.
  • This means for next year, I’m going to treat everyone EXACTLY as they’ve treated me. No more…no less.  What I’m wondering is, after a year of being treated in the same way in which you treat other people, will the people affected in my life then feel as though I’m horrible person? And, if they think I’m horrible for treating them the way they treat me – what does that really say about the way they TREAT people?

    Conditions of my social experiment:

    1. I will NOT do this at work. I just believe those relationships contribute to my and my husband’s livelihood and I will not jeopardize that for a social experiment. 
    2. I will NOT do this in any avenue that affects money, e.g. I’m not going to get snippy with the customer service rep at the bank who gives me less than stellar customer service – she knows all of my information!!?!
    3. I will NOT do this with anyone I’m just meeting. You just never know what someone is going through…

    So that’s it. It’s just going to be a year of responding to people with the same measure of friendliness that’s extended to me. I’m swiching it up from the platinum rule (which I operate by) “Treat others the way they want to be treated.”
    to the Sow and Reap rule – what you sow is what you get.

    I will blog about it for the next year (if I can last that long, lol) and we’ll see what happens.  Just like my dear friend told me, “You should do mission reciprocity. Blog about it and maybe you’ll get on Oprah!” Hmmm – maybe I will!