All women have it…but all black women that are natural?!? We really get it in more ways than one. To Relax or not to Relax? That is the question….
I’ve been natural every since 2006. I cut my hair completely off…the BC (Big Chop).
I shed an old relationship, my hair insecurities and everything I’ve been taught about hair ALL at the same time and I thought I would never look back! Well, I definitely moved on in the men department (praise God!) but I see myself slightly turning back to the hair thing, LOL….
My current hair has grown and its as long as it was before I cut it. Here’s pic of it not straightened:
(Ignore the girl in the pink, LOL)
and its about this long when it’s straightened:
The problem is – I’ve been on a rampage about how my hair is done, saying such bold statements as I will NEVER put chemicals in my hair again to alter it’s natural state of curliness (pump yo fist in the air…now – ha ha). I’ve inspired a TON of women to go natural…how can I have second thoughts? I’ve just always envisioned myself having long beautiful straight tresses on my wedding day.
I don’t want to feel natural, bohemian, deep or proud on my wedding day, I just want to feel light, airy and beautiful!
I think your hairstyles say a lot about you…your mood, what you believe in, how you’re feeling about yourself, you’re self-esteem, whether you felt like doing it that morning, everything!! I mean, literally, when I voted for Barack, I PURPOSEFULLY wore my hair in in my curly bush! with my UNITY colored, “MY VOTE COUNTS” tshirt on! When I’m feeling funky, I’ll rock my fro, wild and crazy! When I’m feeling chill, I’ll straighten my hair and wear it with a headband. When I’m feeling elegant, I’ll pin it up and curl it.
Here’s the reason why I’m so stressed about it. Its going to be hot and sticky on my wedding day and its going to be outdoors. I DO NOT want a baby afro, when my hair decides it wants to soak up the moisture!! I can get my hair VERY straight, if I want to, but it’s a matter of it taking in the humidity and slowly turning back into the afro you see above!
HOW WILL I WEAR MY HAIR ON THE BIG DAY? I’m so torn!
Soo Sooo TORN!
and I don’t know if want to wear braids – I never envisioned myself with micros on my wedding day….
GRRRRRRR! and HELP!?!
Any suggestions? I’m thinking about pulling it back and then adding hair, so that it looks like its my natural hair and I don’t have to worry about sweating it out, but I need pics! Perhaps something like this?
or this?
I also thought about relaxing it for that day only, and then doing the BC (again) the very next day….shooooot, i miss my short hair too! LOL
HELP!?!
p.s. thanks to all of my facebook/natural buddies, who’ve helped me out with this, this morning!
February 9, 2009
Erika
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9 responses to “Hair Meltdown…”
The PYT
February 10th, 2009 at 15:02
I like the pulled back idea! Especially since your wedding will be outdoors by the water. I think an updo will be elegant and chic. And you could keep your natural slicked back and put some weave in to get the straight, elegant look you want. I love both of those updos pictured. I think the first one will be easier to maintain without relaxing your hair. This is deep…it will require much thought…I’ll get back to you, lol
lapizz04
February 10th, 2009 at 18:51
yeah, I think so too, especially with the birdcage veil…I really think that that will be NICE 🙂
I think I may have made up my mind though – all of the looks that I “love” seem to be “best achieved” with a relaxer. I think I’m just going to enjoy my hair over the summer months and then about two weeks before, make my “final” decision…
then I have a feeling I’ll be going short 🙂
we’ll see, you have to let me know when you want to get back to me 🙂 LOL
Racine
February 10th, 2009 at 19:49
I just have two words for you…test drive!!! Try these hair styles out, especially during the warmer months and if that baby fro tries to come out…well, you know what you must do! I def understand you wanting to look elegant and airy on your wedding day. The only way you can know if your natural hair will stand the test is to experiment my friend!
jtuuka
February 11th, 2009 at 22:01
Great advice R. You definitely have time to test it before making a final decision.
lapizz04
February 12th, 2009 at 17:30
I totally agree with the whole test drive concept. My issue is how will I completely test drive my wedding day, I’ll be nervous and CRAZY (more sweat) and dancin’ like a fool that evening (even more sweat). But I have to try it out some way and get an idea. Even if it means spending a lot of cash to get it accomplished(another dislike of the test drive concept, LOL). Perhaps I’ll go to the club on the hottest day of the year and act like I’m nervous! LOL 😉
Thanks Ladies!
Kristin
February 16th, 2009 at 18:29
Okay – so firstly, since when did michelle get gangsta with a tatt? What?! But to the point — I think that the beauty of hair is that it grows, and that, if taken care of, you can experiment a lot, within reason. One other thought (something I have done in the past) is that you could style wigs, to see if you can achieve the look you prefer… no damage to your hair…
Darling Cancerian
March 27th, 2009 at 06:05
Me? I… am all about the dramatics honey! Okay! I like to make mutha*uckaz GASP! Okay?? lol I say you relax that sh*t and THEN chop it off! That will drop their jaws! Your man loves the fact that you’re such a jaw dropper, and so bold and unpredictable. =)
Darling Cancerian
March 27th, 2009 at 06:09
¤dropping jaw¤ :0
Darling Cancerian
March 27th, 2009 at 06:09
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